Quotes by Melissa Febos

Melissa Febos

A lot of the experiences I write about could be described as grasping for boundaries, trying to find the limits of things.

Limits

Trying

Writing

Abandonment by a lover won’t kill us. But it awakens the parts of us that remember when it could.

Lovers

Remember

Remember When

All our stories are part invention – the way we’ve decided to make sense of what has happened.

Invention

Stories

Way

Anyone who makes a life of what they love is a hero to me, and it’s important for those people to be visible in every kind of life, every kind of love, every kind of work.

Hero

Love Is

People

At a glance, addiction, sex work, mad passion, and all forms of extreme behavior might look like pushing or trying to obliterate boundaries when, more honestly, they are a search for them. I want to find the endpoint, the place where my own powers end, so I can yield to something that I’m certain is bigger than me.

Passion

Sex

Yield

Because of the irresistible nature of our own Imagos, I think the replication of it in music is a siren song – we love those tormented songs, and we listen to them over and over and over the way that we smash ourselves into our lovers, or the same kind of lover, over and over. That drive is tireless, until it is resolved. And we can “enjoy” it safely through music, which is a simulacrum we have power over.

Sirens

Song

Thinking

Behaviors and lifestyles that are classified as “normal” rarely get so generalized, public perception of heterosexual relationships, for instance, or of the “white” experience, allow for the infinite variety of experiences that exist under such headings, but people love to reduce the vastness of individuality and subjectivity within marginalized types of experience.

People

Perception

White

Being a dominatrix, sticking my foot up people’s asses for money, necessitated that I divorce myself from any sort of objective perspective on what I was doing. In order to think about things as a writer you have to objectify your experience. I couldn’t have been enacting that experience if I was objectifying it.

Divorce

Order

Thinking

Being celibate was so wonderful. It taught me a lot about love, but even more about my own self outside of love. I’d never met myself out of love before, really.

Love Is

Wonderful

Children’s stories force logic upon the gruesome facts of our lives. They mirror our troubles and submit them to a chain of causality.

Children

Mirrors

Stories

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Addiction

Art

Attachment

Bad Relationship

Beautiful

Becoming One

Behavior

Believe

Bondage

Book

Broken

Character

Childhood

Children

Circles

Class

College

Community

Confession

Couple

Crafts

Creating

Divorce

Dream

Ears

Emotional

Erode

Expression

Eye

Father

Feelings

Fiction

Fire

Frustration

Girl

Hands

Has Beens

Heart

Hero

Heroin

Honest

Hug

Hurt

Instinct

Integrity

Invention

Judging

Kids

Let It Go

Letting Go

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Quotes by Melissa Febos

Melissa Febos

A lot of the experiences I write about could be described as grasping for boundaries, trying to find the limits of things.

Abandonment by a lover won’t kill us. But it awakens the parts of us that remember when it could.

All our stories are part invention – the way we’ve decided to make sense of what has happened.

Anyone who makes a life of what they love is a hero to me, and it’s important for those people to be visible in every kind of life, every kind of love, every kind of work.

Being celibate was so wonderful. It taught me a lot about love, but even more about my own self outside of love. I’d never met myself out of love before, really.

Children’s stories force logic upon the gruesome facts of our lives. They mirror our troubles and submit them to a chain of causality.

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