Quotes by Judith M Bardwick

Judith M Bardwick

… there’s a large core of powerlessness which is balanced against the unwritten contract that says that if you behave, you’ll be okay. No wonder people pay so much attention to knowing the rules, to knowing the right people, to not making waves, to never making errors — to not risking, trying, innovating.

Errors

Knowing

People

… we know that productivity suffers when uncertainty is high. But we’ve failed to realize the equally destructive effects of too little anxiety. … By protecting people from risk, we destroy their self-esteem. We rob them of the opportunity to become strong, competent people.

Opportunity

Self Esteem

Strong

Credibility is lost when there are big discrepancies between what leaders say and what they do. … Increasing credibility requires openness. Hidden agendas will destroy trust.

Agendas

Discrepancies Between

Leadership

For most women being other-directed, focused on how other people feel and nurturing them, was (and can still be) a quality that girls were (are) heavily pressured to become. The unselfish or Self-less woman was (is) seen as ideal. The realization and articulation that the cultural ideal of the perfect woman was someone who had no sense of Self and was a key part of the angry energy that drove Feminism to its swift success.

Girl

People

Perfect

For workaholics, all the eggs of self-esteem are in the basket of work.

Eggs

Self Esteem

Workaholic

I am impressed and distressed at how passive hierarchical organizations make people. There’s often a lot of overt activity, but it’s not going anywhere, it’s game-playing. It’s play-acting at work.

Games

Organization

Play

I think the characteristics of really effective leaders when people are frightened and depressed are the same qualities that leaders need when people are optimistic. The difference is when people are frightened the need for these few qualities becomes much stronger because frightened people are desperate to have someone they can trust and believe in and who seems to be able to create a better future.

Believe

Optimistic

Thinking

I was appalled at how children had become the focus and gravitational center of the nuclear family around which parents orbited instead of the traditional arrangement in which children orbited around their parents. This is a huge change because a critical job in early childhood is to get children weaned away from the total narcissism normal to infancy. With the children as the center of the family’s actions and decisions, narcissism is at a minimum prolonged and may never significantly decline.

Childhood

Children

Focus

If the mood is overly anxious, then anxiety must be reduced by lowering uncertainty. Very simply, uncertainty is reduced when people are told what’s going on and what will happen to them. In the vacuum of no news, people imagine the worst. Since disappointment is much easier to handle than anxiety, then, good news or bad, honesty is honestly the best policy.

Disappointment

Honesty

People

In organizations where nothing much happens regardless of whether you do something exceptional or just show up in the morning, the best people lose heart and motivation is reduced near the lowest common denominator.

Heart

Morning

Motivation

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Agendas

Air

Ambition

Appreciation

Attitude

Believe

Block

Careers

Challenges

Change

Childhood

Children

Climbing

Conformity

Connections

Decision

Disappointment

Discrepancies Between

Distance

Domestic Violence

Dumb

Easy

Eggs

Emotional

Employee

Ends

Errors

Fairness

Feelings

Focus

Gains

Games

Girl

Goal

Grateful

Growing Up

Heart

Honesty

Husband

Identity

Integrity

Intellectual

Knowing

Leader

Leadership

Loss

Love You

Lying

Mean

Mistake

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Quotes by Judith M Bardwick

Judith M Bardwick

… we know that productivity suffers when uncertainty is high. But we’ve failed to realize the equally destructive effects of too little anxiety. … By protecting people from risk, we destroy their self-esteem. We rob them of the opportunity to become strong, competent people.

Credibility is lost when there are big discrepancies between what leaders say and what they do. … Increasing credibility requires openness. Hidden agendas will destroy trust.

For workaholics, all the eggs of self-esteem are in the basket of work.

I am impressed and distressed at how passive hierarchical organizations make people. There’s often a lot of overt activity, but it’s not going anywhere, it’s game-playing. It’s play-acting at work.

In organizations where nothing much happens regardless of whether you do something exceptional or just show up in the morning, the best people lose heart and motivation is reduced near the lowest common denominator.

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