Quotes by Debora Spar

Debora Spar

‘Maybe’ is what gets us into trouble, because I think constantly women are saying I’ll try to do it, maybe I’ll do it, I’ll do it if I can,” and then they’re feeling guilty when inevitably they can’t do everything.

Feelings

Thinking

Trying

Don’t take too much credit for your children – or too much blame!

Children

Credit

Inspiring

Feminism wasn’t supposed to make us miserable. It was supposed to make us free; to give women the power to shape their fortunes and work for a more just world. Today, women have choices that their grandmothers could not have imagined. The challenge lies in recognizing that having choices carries the responsibility to make them wisely, striving not for perfection or the ephemeral all, but for lives and loves that matter.

Life And Love

Lying

Responsibility

I certainly want to be ambitious for women. I’m ambitious for myself. I think women can definitely find areas in which they want to excel.

Ambitious

Thinking

Want

I certainly wouldn’t go back and blame feminism, because all that feminism was really trying to do, which was huge, was to create a new set of expectations, a new set of opportunities for women, and they did.

Expectations

Feminism

Opportunity

I really don’t see any men sitting in the corner office plotting to keep women out. All the men I know are actively trying to promote women, to get more women involved. These men have wives they care about; they have daughters they desperately care about. So I don’t think it’s fair to blame men – or I don’t think it’s accurate to blame men anymore.

Daughter

Men

Thinking

I think one thing that women can do is to just be more honest, with themselves and with their friends, and be more willing to say I’m really excited about this part of my life, but I’m screwing up over here, or this is a mistake I’ve made, or this is something I’ve given up on.

Honest

Mistake

Thinking

I think sometimes by portraying our lives as being too perfect, as being too balanced, we’re actually selling younger women a bill of goods that’s not true.

Bills

Perfect

Thinking

I think what we need to do is to step back as a society and say okay, we’ve kind of turned things upside-down. We have moved away from the nuclear family, in which the man always works and the woman stays home. How are we going to rearrange things now? We’ve done the first part of the revolution, we’ve turned everything on its head, but we haven’t figured out what structures will actually work in this new world.

Home

Men

Thinking

I think what women are doing to themselves is that they’re seeing these different images of perfection – the perfect wife, the perfect mother, the perfect career person, the perfect movie star – and they’re somehow thinking that they should be all of these things, and that’s the problem.

Mother

Stars

Thinking

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Ambitious

Believe

Bills

Chaos

Children

Choices

Couple

Credit

Daughter

Demand

Drains

Expectations

Feelings

Feminism

Fighting

Fun

Home

Honest

Inspiring

Investment

Ivy

Kids

League

Life And Love

Lying

Matter

Men

Mistake

Mother

Myth

Needs

Opportunity

Partnership

Perfect

Perfection

Real

Realizing

Responsibility

School

Simple

Sorry

Stars

Thinking

Trying

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Want

Way

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Quotes by Debora Spar

Debora Spar

‘Maybe’ is what gets us into trouble, because I think constantly women are saying I’ll try to do it, maybe I’ll do it, I’ll do it if I can,” and then they’re feeling guilty when inevitably they can’t do everything.

Don’t take too much credit for your children – or too much blame!

I certainly want to be ambitious for women. I’m ambitious for myself. I think women can definitely find areas in which they want to excel.

I certainly wouldn’t go back and blame feminism, because all that feminism was really trying to do, which was huge, was to create a new set of expectations, a new set of opportunities for women, and they did.

I think one thing that women can do is to just be more honest, with themselves and with their friends, and be more willing to say I’m really excited about this part of my life, but I’m screwing up over here, or this is a mistake I’ve made, or this is something I’ve given up on.

I think sometimes by portraying our lives as being too perfect, as being too balanced, we’re actually selling younger women a bill of goods that’s not true.

I think what women are doing to themselves is that they’re seeing these different images of perfection – the perfect wife, the perfect mother, the perfect career person, the perfect movie star – and they’re somehow thinking that they should be all of these things, and that’s the problem.

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