Quotes by Barbara Deming

Barbara Deming

After the revolution, let us hope, prisons simply would not exist – if by prisons we mean places that could be experienced by the men and women in them at all as every place that goes by that name now is bound to be experienced.

Mean

Men

Names

I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.

Judgment

Judgment Of Others

Should

Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.

Let Me

Live In The Moment

Moments

Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.

Action

Doe

Nice

Nonviolent actions are by their nature androgynous. In them the two impulses that have long been treated as distinct, ‘masculine’ and ‘feminine,’ the impulse of self-assertion and the impulse of sympathy, are clearly joined; the very genius of nonviolence, in fact, is that it demonstrates them to be indivisible, and so restores human community.

Masculine And Feminine

Self

Two

Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.

Doubt

Jail

Trying

Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.

Pulse

Spiritual

Stranger

People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.

Needs

People

Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.

Break

Punishment

Spirit

Something seems wrong to most people engaged in struggle when they see more people hurt on their own side than on the other side. They are used to reading this as an indication of defeat, and a complete mental readjustment is required of them. Within the new terms of struggle, victory has nothing to do with their being able to give more punishment than they take (quite the reverse); victory has nothing to do with their being able to punish the other at all; it has to do simply with being able, finally, to make the other move… Vengeance is not the point; change is.

Hurt

Moving

Struggle

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Action

Argument

Balance

Being Free

Believe

Break

Brotherhood

Change

Diversity

Doe

Doubt

Fear

Firsts

Heart

Hurt

Jail

Judgment

Judgment Of Others

Let Me

Live In The Moment

Masculine And Feminine

Mean

Men

Mind

Moments

Moving

Names

Needs

Neighbor

Nice

Peace

People

Pressure

Pulse

Punishment

Real

Self

Should

Speak

Spirit

Spiritual

Stranger

Struggle

Thinking

Trying

Two

Vengeance

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Quotes by Barbara Deming

Barbara Deming

After the revolution, let us hope, prisons simply would not exist – if by prisons we mean places that could be experienced by the men and women in them at all as every place that goes by that name now is bound to be experienced.

I learned always to trust my own deep sense of what I should do, and not just obediently trust the judgment of others – even others better than I am.

Let me be really here, here in this place and this time where I am.

Nonviolent action does not have to get others to be nice. It can in effect force them to consult their consciences.

Of course it can be said of jails, too, that they try – by punishing the troublesome – to deter others. No doubt, in certain instances this deterrence actually works. But generally speaking it fails conspicuously.

Our own pulse beats in every stranger’s throat.

People who attack others need rationalizations for doing so. We undermine those rationalizations.

Punishment cannot heal spirits, can only break them.

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